A story of Friendship

 

Today, I am not going to tell about those things which you already know. I want to share a genuine and short experience of my life. This was a wonderful yet a life turning moment of my life. I was a student of a boarding school, where I have to be in hostels till my higher secondary. Those days in boarding were somehow the most memorable as well as experienced times of my lifetime. I achieved a lot of lessons during those span of seven years. The days taught me true meaning of life, friendship and of course, love. The presence of some people during that time made my life auspicious and yes, destructive too. Before starting anything I want to give everyone an advice, not everyone who shows you, who lives with you along with happy and friendly faces, are your friends. Always do a good research before choosing anyone as a friend. A good as well as a bad companion can surely change the turning of your life. Be careful as “nothing can be more dangerous than a fake friend”.

I was in my eleventh standard. Just finished the tenth boards and again took admission in eleventh in the same school. Many things changed suddenly. From class 6 to 10, we were together in the same school, in the hostels. A strong bond of friendship was there, maybe that was my only illusion. After 10^th, when I went back to the school everything was silent and seemed lone. Everyone was parted from each other. Due to stream changing or some other issues, almost 60% of our batch mates left the school. I was sad for everyone, but felt disheartened the most due to the separation of my best friend. She had also left the school as she choose a different stream. Fine. Changes are rules of nature. We have to accept it. As time passed by, I was adapted with the situations. But, faces changed a lot. I was wrong somewhere. Everything was going good but something always took me aback. I was feeling alone by my side. Maybe due to a sudden loneliness, I was forced in my mind to do an illegal step which was considered a forbidden task of the school authority. My friends, whom I thought as friends, knew everything. I will not tell that they supported me. But it is also true that they didn’t tell me to withdraw. Whatever I was doing was good from my side, but after all it was totally wrong. And as usual, it had an end one day. I was caught. I was punished. I was regretting for my mistake. Can anyone guess what happened next? Hopefully, many of the readers has guessed something. I know. Yes, you are true. Betrayal in friendship was the thing I faced. No one was there with me. I was left all alone everywhere. I will not tell lie because they were there with me, but only to tease me, only to make fun of me behind my eyes. Back stabbing was their nature, I came to know later. In front of me, everyone was behaving sympathetic but behind me their original faces were revealed. They talked with me and gave me various life lectures then. I was still blind folded and believed them. I thought several nights but I was not in that position to think also. Overall I was just torn between everything. I was unable to bear the pain what I got in the betrayal.

What next? What will be going to happen next? The arrival of someone special took place. An angel. Yes, she was an angel for me. She took admission in our school at eleventh as lateral entry. When I met her for the first time, I never thought that she will become so close to my heart. When my nearest ones left me, the only person who was with me was her. Actually, there is nothing like someone very close to ourselves. People reveal their real faces when you will need them the most. The person who I met just a few days ago, was now a treasure to me. Only because of her arrival I found a new me in myself. How the days passed by in the companionship of this sweet angel, I wonder still today also. I started to recover from then. I started to develop my courage, determination and then everything was better.

But no matter how old we get, false friends can put deep scars on our hearts and big dents in our confidence. I have known this truth for as long as I have tried to make a friend or two, but each time I face it, I feel a sting. This is just a simple and short incident of betrayal. There are lots more than this. If you hear those, then friendship will become a lie to people. But no, friendship is as pure as anything. Due to some people it is not justified to doubt in friendship. We need friends just like every other human being does, but because we are more liable to misread people's intentions and less able to figure out the nuances of interpersonal communications, we are more vulnerable to misguided friendships. Have realistic expectations when it comes to what you expect from people you would call friend. Change your expectations to keep yourself from wanting too much and from giving too much. Everyone has lives they have to attend to and no one can be everything for everyone. *Realize that some friends are casual once-in-a-while-going-out-to-lunch friends, some are deeper and more important caring friends, and most are somewhere in between. Don't expect all your friends to be as concerned about you on the same level.

One thing everyone should remember, friends can’t be best with only the passing of years. A true friend can be there with you even within a second. Time never judges friendship. It’s easy to be friends when life is easy, but a real friend never allows someone they care about to go through difficulties alone. Whatever hardships the world has in store, true friends stick together and get through them together. Everybody isn’t your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn’t mean they are your friend. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention. Time passes and you begin to see people for who they really are and not who they pretend to be. Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule. But love people who never look at their schedule when you need them.

I don’t need a bunch of friends to be happy. I have seen and experienced a lot by doing this. Yes, I was unaware at that time because I was in my childhood and adolescence. I better have that one good friend who’s always there for me, without any conditions, without any prejudices. That unconditional friendship that isn’t asking to change myself to please, that loves me back as much as I love him/her, that friendship that doesn’t feel like lots of work and effort but that feels like pure pleasure and happiness. That’s what’s friendship is about. Don’t ever misunderstand and misjudge people. Always learn to do a wise judgment of people. And yes, never help anyone in anything unless you know the true nature of that person. People nowadays are embedded in different faces. So be careful.

Best wishes….

                                                                                                                               - Aurora